i) Normative Narrative
When reading Sydney’s blog post Gender and comparing it to my own post Holding You in my Arms I found that even though our stories took place at very different points in our lives they were still a lot of similarities. Sydney in her story Gender talks about going to sign up for dance and her mom taking her, “we parked in front of a small building that had many mothers and daughters walking in and out of the door, I knew this was a place where I belonged.” Showing how dance is a female/feminine dominated sport. In my story Holding You in my Arms I talk about a stereotypical woman’s role of being a mother, being soft, kind, and nurturing, “Being a mother and raising a child of my own; such a stereotypical role as a female, but one I was beyond proud to fulfill in every aspect.” After reading Debbie’s blog post also titled Gender I found many similarities between it and my own post. “At last I held my baby in my arms and felt an indescribable joy that I could never replicate in any other way. My nine months of waiting was over. I held my cherished gift in the quietness of that moment and I will never be the same woman again.”
After reading all three of our stories the normative narrative that really stood out to me was the female role of being feminine, graceful, and motherly. With Sydney’s story about dance and the graceful feminine movements a dancer makes and the role of being a soft caring nurturing mother as told in both my story and Debbie’s.
ii) Disrupting Normative Narrative
Even having been able to find the normative narrative of females being graceful, soft, gentle, feminine, and motherly, all three stories also go to speak against this stereotype as they all talk about the strength that does along with being “female”. Sydney talks about the strength needed to be a dancer. “Here we learned to be strong, powerful, motivated, encouraging, thriving, balanced young women.” “Dance helped me realize who I was, how powerful my body really is, and how empowering other women is very important always.” in her story Gender. In my post Holding You in my Arms I talk about a moment in my life where I felt very powerful as a woman, “It made me feel so powerful as a woman to be able to create this life and bring it into the world.” In Debbie’s story Gender she talks about the strength, courage, and calm needed even with all of the fear of everything going on around her. “But amidst my underlying fear, I felt brave and determined.” Even know what was happening she was still able to summon up the strength to deliver her baby on her own terms and to do so safely. “However, I still had a job to do and I didn’t think about the danger surrounding the situation.”
To me our stories show that it doesn’t matter your gender you should be free to be who you want to be. In this case we are three strong woman. Showing our strengths in different ways, one as a dancer, and the others as mothers. Even with fitting into the stereotype of being feminine as the media portrays all three of us were still able to be strong, and have the courage to do what we wanted to do showing a more “masculine” quality. “corporate produced popular culture has become a more pervasive institution in our lives through multiple points of entry such as advertising, sponsored curriculum in schools, and mass media.” “socializing girls into femininity (nurturing, caring, beauty play) and boys into masculinity (aggressive, violent, and physical play).” (Sensoy & DiAngelo. p 106) By not being afraid of fitting slightly into these norms or stereotypes and at the same time breaking the mold by showing our strength we are helping people to see that it is okay to be who you are no matter what society tells you you should be.